I just read on an NLP newsgroup some of the dumbest ever posts relating to Provocative Therapy. In recent times I have increasingly spoken about how embarassed I am by some NLPers and how they IMO can increasingly ANALyse to the most ludicrous extent. In this instance a group of NLP trainers and students totally fail to appreciate that Provocative Therapy occurs when there is excellent rapport between parties and is likened to "two old friends chatting" Its NOT a demonstration of aggression or how to be a smart arse!
Provocative Therapy is a very sophisticated therapeutic approach that requires an acute ability to pay attention and to work in the here and now avoiding any mindreading of the client. After almost four years of studying with Frank Farrelly up close I have noticed that few who have studied NLP have IMO realised the many dimensions to Frank's work. Part of thereason for this is that may NLPers only train with a couple of trainers and never see private clients, so much of their "understanding" is wholly theoretical. This extends to those with quite grandoise titles and years of experence!
Frank has indicated that there will be no certifications in Provocative Therapy and mentioned this on the 2006 DVD set. I fully agree with this as in the world of NLP many confuse having a certificate with "being qualified" and the general standard I have encountered of insights is not that great. In those instances where I train others in NLP (which are less than they used to be) I always stress the need to not just rely on rolling out techniques. Today I spoke to somebody who had spent a huge sum on trainings (the price of a new BMW!) and had not learned basic client skills due IMO to a poor quality of training.
In 2009 The Association for Provocative Therapy will be running PT trainings in the UK and elsewhere. These will focus on real skill development and teaching the different layers involved in this approach. To date those who have previously trained in NLP either do very well or totally struggle to move from their own figid beliefs, so its gonna be interesting...
LOL
Saturday 20 September 2008
Wednesday 10 September 2008
A Dog's purpose (thanks to Frank for e-mailing this one)
A Dog's Purpose (from a 6-year-old).
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish
Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their
little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for
a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the
family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the
euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made
arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for
six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might
learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family
surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time,
that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes,
Belker slipped peacefully away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's
transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while
after Belker's Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives
are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped
up, 'I know why.'
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me.
I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, 'People are born so that they can learn how to live a good Life --
like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?' The Six-year-old
continued, 'Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have
to
stay as long.'
Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:
When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure
Ecstasy.
Take naps.
Stretch before rising.
Run, romp, and play daily.
Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
Be loyal.
Never pretend to be something you're not.
If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them
gently.
ENJOY
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish
Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their
little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for
a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the
family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the
euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made
arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for
six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might
learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family
surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time,
that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes,
Belker slipped peacefully away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's
transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while
after Belker's Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives
are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped
up, 'I know why.'
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me.
I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, 'People are born so that they can learn how to live a good Life --
like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?' The Six-year-old
continued, 'Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have
to
stay as long.'
Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:
When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure
Ecstasy.
Take naps.
Stretch before rising.
Run, romp, and play daily.
Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
Be loyal.
Never pretend to be something you're not.
If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them
gently.
ENJOY
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